Today is a celebration that many single
people (women) loathe or despise, mainly because you’re not in a relationship
at this very moment. And thinking back to when I wasn’t, (while I currently
think about popping some Hershey’s Pieces), I get it. While I never despised
Valentine’s Day, it certainly made me feel acutely alone. And sad. If I got nothing.
So I woke up this morning because my
mind was writing this post, and I got up so my fingers could obey my mind. This
is my special Valentine’s Day post for you.
Change Your Focus
While Valentine’s Day evolved into
celebrating romantic love, it didn’t start out that way. A little trip down
history lane reveals that it began with a letter written by a Roman priest
named Valentine to a blind girl he supposedly healed right before he was
executed (nothing romantic about that). The holiday didn’t evolve into
celebrating romance until much later.
And now, it’s evolved again. Because
no longer is it just about romantic
love ― Eros ― as evidenced by all the greeting cards on display. You’ll find
cards to mom, dad, daughter, son, and someone special, alongside all the
typical husband, wife, and couple cards. So what does that tell you? That the
love we celebrate now on Valentine’s Day includes all forms of love ― Phileo
(friendship) and Agape (Godly).
Give Yourself
You want to feel loved today? Spend some time giving love to people who need to
feel it as well. Stop by your community center, or Boys and Girls club and give
time, smiles, or treats to children who need to feel affirmed.
Stop by the hospital or nursing home
and pass out heart balloons or cards to those who may have you as their only
special visitor today.
Go to a shelter for the homeless or
abused, and show care for those who miss it the most.
Call your family, whether blood or
love, and friends and tell them what you appreciate about them. Then pamper
yourself in the way that makes you feel the best about you.
Bottom line: When you step outside of yourself and what you feel you’re
missing, and give what you actually have to someone else, you’ll feel loved on
this Valentine’s Day. Because whatever you give away will come right back to
you. Guarantee!